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WHY ARE MY PARENTS SPLITTING UP?

During our lives, we change as people and this can mean people start to want different things. There are many reasons why parents decide to separate or divorce, but the most common are:

- drifting apart or not wanting to spend time together

- seeing things differently or arguing

- not wanting to live in the same house

Most times, parents have tried really hard to make things better, but they can't live together any more.

What doesn't change is the fact that your parents love you and they will always be your mum and dad.

There are many people who you can to talk to:

Family

You can tell your mum and dad how you are feeling. You can also talk to your brother or sisters - they will know exactly how you are feeling. You also may have an aunt or uncle, or grandparents who will be able to help you.

Other

people

This can include your friends, or even their parents. Maybe your favourite teacher will be able to talk to you. You may even know someone else whose parents don't live together anymore.

Support

bodies

These people are their to help you:

Childline - 0800 1111

Get connected - 0800 096 0096

Family Mediation - use our special email to ask any questions youngpeople[at]fmwest.org.uk

YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE

It might help you to read stories about what other young people have gone through.

When parents are splitting up, it is hard for them to always consider your feelings. We have some quizzes for you to do which may help you understand how you are feeling.

Download Feelings Quiz

Download Future Quiz

What

about

me?

IS THIS WHAT YOU THINK?

It is my fault that my parents are splitting up.

- It is not your fault, they still love you

You have to choose between your mum and dad.

- If your parents can't agree, family courts decide.

If you ignore sad feelings, they'll go away

- It will help you to talk about your feelings.

WHAT HAPPENS IF MY PARENTS SPLIT UP?

While your parents are going through the difficult decision to separate or divorce, it may mean there are lots of arguments. This will be hard for you, so you should seek help if you need it.

It may be useful for your family to try mediation. This will help everyone discuss the situation and come up with the best solution for everyone.

For more information about what happens, and to help you understand legal terms, search through the rest of the website. If there are still things that you would like to know, please contact us at youngpeople[at]fmwest.org.uk

Handy hints!

- Writing your feelings down can sometimes

make you feel better. Try keeping a diary.

- If you find it hard to talk to someone,

why not write them a letter?

- It's difficult to know how we feel sometimes,

so start by saying "I feel .......because....."

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